Let Go Of How You Think Things Should Be
Letting go of how you think things should be is a pretty broad statement I know. As bloggers we have been taught all these strategies and techniques and we often blindly follow them without even thinking them through. We do it because it worked for someone else so we think it would work for us. We do some things we don’t even enjoy. Blogging starts to look like a job to many.
So why do we think things should be a certain way? Why are we so stuck on this?
Because we learned it somewhere along the line and didn’t question it. Our behaviors and habits are learned. We were not born with them. I mean I was taught that you had to work hard to have anything at all. My dad worked so many hours at times, I rarely saw him. My parents grew up raised by parents in the Depression, so think about the survival mode they learned. They pass it down without even questioning a thing. That’s how it happens.
But things change. Technology alone has opened so many doors, yet many of us carry around our old beliefs that we learned from our parents without question.
Oh and then there is society and the media flashing it all in our faces. I don’t think I need to say anything more about this area. I am quite sure you are aware of the influence of society and the media.
When you think things should be a certain way, you are looking at what has already been done. Your content will not expand when you are coming from a place of what has already been done. No creativity in that at all. You are limited by what has already been done.
The reality here is your mind is going to see your worth based often on the comparison of yourself to what others have already done. based on evidence of what you have learned in the past as opposed to the potential of what you could become if you questioned things and followed your heart, inner guidance system, or whatever you want to name it.
I can give you an example. When I was in high school, I had to take an elective course called “How to Study”. It was an awful class. I barely passed with a D. They had this one set way. I don’t remember much, because hey, I barely passed. I do remember is had to do with making outlines of the content you had to study and goal setting.
I remember feeling like a failure as I was one of the few that did not ace this class. I was completely unaware that even back then, that inner voice was speaking to me, telling me what I was and was not good at.
We are all different. I had good grades and I didn’t study, so this class bored me to tears. We aren’t taught in school to use our imaginations. We are taught what everyone else does. (More on this in the Goals module)
Lesley is in school now, studying Theology. Below is an example of a video she created to study for a test. By the way, Lesley has a 4.0 gpa.
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This is what happens when you tap into that inner guidance system. You get ideas that would never occur to you otherwise. Things that you had never thought of just flow to you.
I have been asked more times than I can count, should I do this or that. Is this a good niche or not. In other words people ask me if they should do what everyone else would do. The thing is, no one else has your talents, your gifts or your insight so no one else can tell you. You have an inner guidance system that has all the answers, you just have to tap into it.
The inner guidance that we all have is not something we learned. It’s who we are.
